"And they lived happily
ever after" —
but how, exactly?
That question followed me for decades. It's why I became a relationship coach, trained as a clinical hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, and created the RESET Method™.
Every fairy tale ends the same way.
Nobody explains what happens next.
I was fascinated by love stories from the beginning. Fairy tales, mostly. But even as a small girl, something nagged at me — they always ended at the same point. The kiss. The rescue. The wedding. And then: happily ever after. Nobody ever explained what that actually meant. What happened when real feelings, real fears, and real patterns arrived.
That question grew more urgent as I watched the people around me. The same arguments in different relationships. The same type of person chosen again and again. Good people, self-aware people — and yet the pattern kept running. What I kept finding underneath every difficult relationship story wasn't a lack of love. It was a disconnection from self-worth. A deep, usually invisible belief about what kind of love was available to them, what they had to do to deserve it.
They have a self-worth deficit — dressed up as one.
The pattern doesn't feel
like a pattern.
It feels like love.
The faces change. The stories change. The dynamic doesn't. And the reason most advice doesn't work is that it speaks to the conscious mind — while the pattern lives somewhere else entirely. That's what led me to build the RESET Method™: a process that works at the level where the pattern actually lives.
Then life made me
apply all of it
to myself.
In September 2018, my partner of 19 years died. I was 44, single, two years into my own breast cancer recovery, carrying significant debt, and suddenly responsible for everything alone. All the work I had been doing with clients — I now had to do for myself. For real, with everything on the line.
This is where the coaching framework met hypnotherapy, NLP and Tarot — not as methodological additions, but as tools I personally needed to survive and rebuild. The RESET Method™ wasn't designed in a training room. It was forged from lived experience: my own, and that of every client I've worked with since.
- A large mortgage and significant debt
- Two years into breast cancer recovery
- Suddenly responsible for everything, including caring for my mother
- No safety net. No one coming to save me.
- Still deep in grief for the love of my life
No one was coming.
So I became my own champion.
I did the work — not just professionally, but personally. I faced the patterns I had been teaching others to face. And on the other side of that: the debt cleared, the grief moved, the life I couldn't have imagined started to become real. I fell in love. I travelled. I turned 50 more energised than I had been at 30.
The RESET Method™ is what emerged from all of it — built from training, deepened by everything I lived through, and tested by the hundreds of clients I've worked with since.
Another doorway
into the subconscious.
I use Tarot as an entry point into the patterns the analytical mind often protects. Not to predict the future — but to surface what's already there: the blocks, the fears, the beliefs running quietly underneath. If you're drawn to this side of the work, visit my YouTube channel Love Alchemy Tarot — readings, manifestation practices, and tools for understanding yourself more deeply.
▶ Visit Love Alchemy Tarot on YouTubeOnce you see the pattern,
you can't unsee it.
And that is where everything begins. Start with the free assessment to understand your self-worth patterns — or book a Diagnostic Session to begin changing them.