"And they lived happily
ever after" —
but how, exactly?
That question followed me for decades. It's why I became a relationship coach, trained as a clinical hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, and named my company Happy Ever After.
Every fairy tale ends the same way.
Nobody explains what happens next.
I was fascinated by love stories all my life. Fairy tales, mostly. But even as a small girl, something nagged at me: they always ended at the same point. The kiss. The rescue. The wedding. And then: happily ever after. No word of what happened next. The story felt unfinished.
When I grew up, I realised what had been bothering me about this. Every story I ever heard was about finding love. None of them were about keeping it. About what happened when two people who loved each other still couldn't seem to stop hurting each other. About why the same relationship seemed to follow people from partner to partner, year to year, no matter how much they wanted things to be different.
Everyone believed love would be enough. Life kept showing that it wasn't. And the reason, I came to understand, had nothing to do with love at all. It began somewhere deeper and less visible. In what a person believed, somewhere beneath all the hoping, about whether they were truly worthy of it.
What looks like a love story
is often something older.
The faces change. The feeling doesn't.
The relationships were always different. The wound at the centre was almost always the same: some early decision, made before there were words for it, about what love required and what it meant to be enough. Most people have spent years trying to solve this at the level of the relationship. Changing the partner. Changing the circumstances. Trying harder, giving more, making themselves smaller or louder or different.
It rarely works. Because the programme runs deeper than any of that.
Then life made me
apply all of it
to myself.
In September 2018, my partner of 19 years died. I was 44, single, two years into my own breast cancer recovery, carrying significant debt, and suddenly responsible for everything alone. All the work I had been doing with clients, I now had to do for myself. For real, with everything on the line.
This is where the coaching framework met hypnotherapy, NLP and Tarot, not as methodological additions, but as tools I personally needed to survive and rebuild. The RESET Method™ was not designed in a training room. It was forged from lived experience, my own and that of every client I have worked with since.
No one was coming.
So I became my own champion.
I did the work, not just professionally but personally. I faced what I had been teaching others to face. And on the other side of that: the debt cleared, the grief moved, the life I could not have imagined started to become real. I fell in love. I travelled. I stopped waiting to be rescued, and discovered that the rescuer I had been waiting for was the woman I was becoming.
The knight in shining armour, it turns out, has always been a queen.
That is what the RESET Method™ was built from. Not a training room. Not a theory. Lived experience, mine and that of every client I have worked with since.
Once you see the programme,
you can't unsee it.
And that is where everything begins. Start with the free assessment to understand your self-worth programmes, or book a Diagnostic Session to begin changing them.