I KNOW WHAT I WANT – I have a clear vision for my life and relationship. I can envision my perfect life in rich detail that feels strong, very real, and keeps me motivated.
1 out of 10
I KNOW MY REQUIREMENTS – I have a written list of at least ten non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential partners. I am clear that if any are missing, a relationship will not work for me.
2 out of 10
I AM HAPPY & SUCCESSFUL BEING SINGLE – I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my friends, and my own company. I am living the life that I want, and I am not seeking a relationship out of desperation and need.
3 out of 10
I AM READY & AVAILABLE FOR COMMITMENT – I have no emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship. My schedule, commitments and lifestyle allow my availability to build a new relationship.
4 out of 10
I AM SATISFIED WITH MY WORK/CAREER – My work is fulfilling, supports my lifestyle, and does not interfere with my availability for a new relationship.
5 out of 10
I AM HEALTHY IN MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT – My physical, mental, or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I am reasonably happy and feel good.
6 out of 10
MY FINANCIAL & LEGAL BUSINESS IS HANDLED – I have no financial or legal issues that would interfere with having the life and relationship that I want
7 out of 10
MY FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS ARE FUNCTIONAL – My relationships with my children, ex, siblings, parents, and extended family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want.
8 out of 10
I HAVE EFFECTIVE DATING SKILLS – I initiate contact with people I want to meet, and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my physical and emotional boundaries, and balance my heart with my head with potential partners
9 out of 10
I HAVE EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIP SKILLS – I understand relationships, can maintain closeness and intimacy, communicate authentically and assertively, negotiate difference positively, allow myself to trust and be vulnerable, and can give and receive love without emotional barriers
10 out of 10