It’s December already! Can you believe it?

As the year draws to a close and the festive season sparkles around us, it’s the perfect time for reflection.

While we often take stock of our careers, finances, and personal goals, it’s equally important to reflect on our romantic relationships.

This year-end relationship check-up isn’t about assigning blame or dwelling on negativity. Instead, it’s an opportunity to celebrate your strengths, acknowledge areas for growth, and set intentions for a more connected and fulfilling new year.

Here are some key questions to guide your reflection:

1. Communication:

• How effectively did we communicate this year?
• Did we express our needs and feelings openly and honestly?
• Did we listen to each other with empathy and understanding?
• What communication patterns do we want to strengthen or change in the coming year?

2. Quality Time:

• Did we prioritize quality time together amidst our busy schedules?
• What activities did we enjoy most as a couple?
• How can we create more meaningful shared experiences in the future?

3. Conflict Resolution:

• How did we handle disagreements and conflicts this year?
• Were we able to resolve conflicts constructively and respectfully?
• What can we do to improve our conflict resolution skills?

4. Intimacy and Connection:

• How satisfied are we with our emotional and physical intimacy?
• Did we nurture our connection throughout the year?
• What can we do to deepen our intimacy and create more sparks?

5. Shared Goals and Values:

• Are we aligned on our long-term goals and values?
• Do we support each other’s dreams and aspirations?
• How can we better collaborate and grow together?

6. Appreciation and Gratitude:

• What do we appreciate most about each other?
• How did we express our love and gratitude this year?
• How can we show more appreciation for each other in the future?

Turning Reflection into Action:

Reflection is only the first step. To truly enhance your relationship, it’s crucial to translate your insights into action.

• Communicate your reflections with your partner. Share your thoughts and feelings openly and honestly.
• Set shared intentions for the new year. Discuss your goals and create a plan to work towards them together.
• Prioritize your relationship. Make time for each other, plan date nights, and nurture your connection.
• Seek support if needed. If you’re facing challenges, don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance from a relationship coach or therapist.

This year-end reflection is a gift you give to your relationship. By taking the time to assess, appreciate, and adjust, you can create a more loving, fulfilling, and connected partnership in the year ahead.

If you don’t know quite how to measure your progress and opportunity for growth, check out this Relationship Health Assessment designed to provide you with a simple framework for what needs your attention.